Making Monday Great: Monday Mavericks

Lately I've found myself really discouraged by all the negativity that exists in the world. Obviously there's the big news headlines like last week's incident on the tube in London or hate crimes like the recent events in Charlottesville. But even the simplistic banter that occurs with the people all around us day in and day out is pretty disheartening. I can think of countless examples of snide remarks I've recently heard about the "annoying girl on Instagram" or even the wasted energy spent hating on celebrities. What's productive about any of it? When did cynicism become so acceptable? Not even that-- it almost feels like some sick new form of millennial humor. It's really been bumming me out. 

I could go into a lot more detail as to why I think we should eliminate things like cynicism and hatred, but pretty soon I start to sound like a cynical hater myself just talking about it (which kinda defeats the point, right?)

So after several failed attempts to do something positive about it all, I decided to shift my perspective + instead, simply focus on optimism. Sure, it may sound corny. But while attempting to completely squash negativity with some happy thoughts may sound a bit audacious, I do think we’re capable of doing a lot more good than we give ourselves credit for. So let's just start with a small, yet chronic case of negativity: Monday. 

Just about every person I know dreads the hangover effect this dismal day has after a glorious weekend of freedom (Sunday Scaries, anyone?) And I get it-- Mondays mean starting over at a daunting beginning and staring at all that’s ahead of us (you may remember this blog I wrote about Monday a few years ago). But as sweet as a perpetual weekend may sound, isn’t it a terribly sad thought to let one-seventh of your life always be dreadful? What if it didn’t have to be? 

As I've said recently, I started Blonde Atlas with the intention of inspiring you to live your best life. And while travel will always be a key player in that, I also believe there's a lot more all of us can be doing to make life more amazing-- even if it's as simple as re-framing Monday. 

I've decided to start Monday Mavericks: a weekly newsletter with the simple purpose of empowering an army of optimists. Because I believe the world needs more of that right now.

Let me start by caveating that I hate emails and am the first to unsubscribe when there are too many or if even one feels sales-y. I pinky promise not to spam you or sell your info to some guy in Zanzibar. Instead, it's my hope to give you something that's quick + digestible enough to read in the elevator or with your morning coffee, but powerful enough to make you excited about the week ahead. You can expect things like:

Poppin' playlists with music that’s guaranteed to put you in a good mood. 

iPhone wallpaper with encouraging words. 

Quotes that make you feel warm + fuzzy and remind you the world doesn't suck. 

Lot's more... I don't live inside a box. 

My simple hope of Monday Mavericks is to equip you with encouragement to bring a little more positivity + optimism into your week so you can live a better life. Because when you’re a better version of yourself, it’s contagious to the people around you.  

Still not drinking the Kool-Aid? Consider the following to be a free sample of what's to come. Let's start with some jams, shall we?

These are my go-to tunes when I need a pick-me-up or help feeling like I can conquer the world (go ahead and hit play now- it'll make the rest of this sound more inspirational, thus making my job easier). Some songs are chalk full of juicy, encouraging lyrics. Some just have an epic beat and make you feel like the protagonist in an inspirational film. Some have both, and if you're not careful, you'll find yourself getting all teary-eyed because life is so damn beautiful (skip to 1:58 of "Surprise Yourself", imagine walking through Paris all by yourself and try telling me you don't feel a little emotional). 

Each week I'll add more songs to the same playlist (think of it like a fine wine that'll get better with age). If you think you have exquisite taste in music, feel free to send me recos: theblondeatlas@gmail.com.

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In addition to some feel-good music, I also plan to share lots of encouraging words. This phone wallpaper (which I'll update each week) features one of my favorite sayings: "Life is tough, my darling, but so are you."

If your life isn't tough in some form or fashion right now, you're doing something wrong. Let me gently remind you: it's good to be in positions that are uncomfortable, difficult or tough. Sure, they're not always fun at first. But those are the places where you learn and grow and become far more interesting of a human being. If you strive for live a life that's always easy it's bound to be terribly boring and overrated.

So whether today presents you with small challenges like coffee spilled on your shirt or something much more difficult- don't curse it. Let this simple little phrase remind you that your life should be tough in order to become more beautiful, but you're tough too. Hang in there. 

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CHALLENGE FOR THE WEEK: 

I want to wrap up each Monday with a simple challenge you can apply to your week ahead. Before you freak out or get into your commitment issues, you can relax. I'm not going to ask you to climb Mt. Kilimanjaro or write a novel. We're talking baby steps here. 

So for today, this beautiful, gift-of-a-fresh-start that's called Monday, what's one thing you can do to trade complaining for something lovely? How can you make it filled with more of what you love? Maybe it's something simple to boost your mood like taking a relaxing bubble bath, or letting yourself buy a stupidly-expensive latte from the boujee coffee shop on the way to work. Maybe you hand the barista a $10 tip for no reason other than being generous and making her day. Get crazy. Color outside the lines. Just do something that makes today special so that Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday have big shoes to fill. And then, share your positivity of choice in the comments below. Let's make this movement contagious. 

I realize none of the above is necessarily revolutionary, but that's not the point. My hope of all this is to facilitate more goodness around a day that's known for snowballing various forms of negativity. Have ideas about the type of content you want to see in the newsletters moving forward? Please shoot me an email or tell me in the comments below! It takes an army to encourage each other, and I want this to be something you look forward to receiving every week.

So finally, we've reached the part where I ask you to join me. To sign up to receive Monday Maverick newsletters each week, complete the form below:

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Let's make optimism and encouragement more popular than cynicism. Let’s be mavericks. Let’s have another cup of coffee and  let’s make Monday awesome. 

xx

Whitney

Road Trips in France: Toulouse and Montpellier

Happy Thursday! Today I'm rewinding to the very beginning of my most recent trip through France to share about my time in Toulouse and just outside Montpellier. While Paris is one of my favorite cities in the world (check out my Travel Guide and Hotel Guide for more about the city of lights) there are SO many other destinations in this beautiful country that I knew I wanted to see. So I did some homework, mapped out a route and set out on a two week road trip from the south-west corner all the way up to northern coast.

Full disclosure, this is not a comprehensive post where I break down the intricacies of every-single-thing you need to know. While I want to be a helpful resource to show you the "best of the best" of every destination, I also want to help show you different styles of traveling. I (personally) don't believe seeing this region of France is something you do with a grand agenda. Since these are less-popular destinations than some of the "heavy hitters" in Europe, there's not really a laundry list of things you're "supposed to do." So instead, I recommend to relax a little, let yourself go with the flow and take everything in along the way. I will say that the best way to visit either of these, especially if you group them together with villages in Provence, you'll want to rent a car to get around (and as I mentioned in my Étretat post, we spent quite a bit of cash on tolls so I'd advise planning accordingly - this is a good resource for more information.)

TOULOUSE

After my trip to Prague, I had 24 hours on my own to kill before meeting up with my friend Marcia. I caught a flight to Toulouse, nicknamed "La Ville Rose" (aka The Pink City) known for the hues of its terra-cotta bricks. Toulouse is someplace that's been on my radar for a while now. I'd read articles in Condé Nast Traveller and Vogue praising this soulful metropolis in southwestern France. It's situated between the Pyrenees mountains, very close to the Mediterranean and just around the corner from one of the most beautiful and popular regions in France, the Dordogne. In the short time I spent here, I quickly became very aware of how much history, culture, epicurean excellence and beauty this city possesses. I set out with no agenda and simply got lost roaming through the narrow blush alleys and strolled along the Garonne river.

Grand Hôtel de l'Opéra

In the heart of the city is a breathtaking courtyard and domineering façade known as "Le Capitole"-- serving as the City Hall. Here, you'll find a variety of musicians, cafes and anything else embodying the "Laissez les Bons Temps Rouler" (let the good times roll) lifestyle. I stayed at Grand Hôtel de l'Opéra, a beautiful four-star hotel that's rich in history, modern in comfort and overlooks the Capitole square.

This hotel was a former Monastery dating back to the 17th century. Today, the 57 elegant rooms offer a refined style with unique charm (and lots of them offer a balcony or terrace that overlooks Le Capitole). They also have a Gastronomic restaurant, Les Jardins de l'Opéra, on site which offers delicious cuisine and a beautiful atmosphere. 

The staff was most welcoming and accommodating and I couldn't have been in a more optimal location for exploring the city by foot. I'd highly recommend this gem to anyone paying Toulouse a visit!

While my time in Toulouse was fleeting, one thing I know about this beautiful city is that they know how to have a good time. Whether in bustling food markets, the impressive wine cafés or relishing in the hum of the jazz, techno and rock scenes, the pink city is sure to captivate your heart. I can't wait to return again in the future!

 

MONTPELLIER

Once my friend Marcia arrived the next day, we hopped in the car and set out for Montpellier, France. This (almost) coastal town is only 10km inland from the Mediterranean Sea and is known for its medieval streets and warm subtropical climate. We stayed slightly outside the city for more of a tranquil retreat so that Marcia could recover from jetlag and I could recover from 6 weeks on the road. 

DOMAINE DE VERCHANT

The Domaine de Verchant is a place that disconnects you from the outside world in a cozy cocoon of luxury. Set in the heart of a restored vineyard estate, this five-star castle/ hotel/ château offers a wide array of unique apartments and villas- each with unique decor. The setting is deliberately intimate to maintain a low accommodation capacity to promote optimal service and comfort. No matter if we were at the impressive breakfast spread or lounging by any of the beautiful pools, it felt as if we were the only ones there. 

To be perfectly honest, we planned on exploring more of Montpellier that evening but we loved Domaine de Verchant so much that we ended up staying on property the entire time! For dinner that evening, we ate a gourmet meal at “Verchant” one of the restaurants on-site with sweeping views of the vineyards. The staff was very accommodating and everything we ate was fantastic. But then again, that was true for our entire experience overall. Domaine de Verchant was exactly what we both needed: a place to rest that's set in a beautiful and quintessentially French atmosphere. I highly recommend staying here to anyone passing through the southern region of France who is looking for the same. 

Toulouse and Montpellier (or Domaine de Verchant anyway!) were each unique in their own way, but both were destinations I'm glad I visited. From here we journeyed onto Provence (which you can read about in my Provenceal Travel Guide). No matter what you're looking for in a destination, I sincerely can't recommend going off the beaten path enough. It's places like these little towns and villages that you truly get a taste of the local culture- something you could accidentally miss in a big city like Paris where there is so much going on. Visiting less-popular destinations has become one of the most rewarding parts of travel for me, and it's my hope that introducing you to some of these places encourages you to get outside your comfort zone and try something new. 

Any questions about these destinations? Let me know in the comments below. 

Thanks for stopping by, and stay tuned for another stop on my road-trip through France: Dijon!

xx

Whitney

New Season: thoughts on moving + Changing

I’ve been keeping some life updates on the DL lately. 

While it’s no secret that I’ve spent the last year traveling (over 300 days to get specific) what I haven’t advertised, at least not to the masses anyway, is that I’ve been trying to move to London for quite a while now. 

Photo by Joel Smedley

I had the great privilege of doing life in (what I believe to be) the greatest city in the world for almost 3 months last year, and they ended up being 3 of my favorite months of my entire life. The funny thing is, I didn’t even mean for it to happen. 

As you may know, I left America last August to travel around Europe for (what I originally thought would be) 3 months. I planned to pop into London for the month of September to stay with my friend Haley (who had moved there temporarily) and kill some time that I had between travels. I'd been before and liked it perfectly fine but to be honest, what I really wanted was to fill that month with some other destinations that I hadn’t already seen. 

Except in really no time at all, I fell completely head over heels in love with London. It wasn’t until I did life there that I found a new found appreciation for everything about it. I loved the people, the culture, the architecture. I loved how you never, ever run out of things to do. I loved going for runs in Hyde Park and commuting on the tube- even in the worst chaos of rush hour. I loved my new friends and their English accents. I loved learning to recognize British culture and mannerisms. I loved my church where I went every Sunday, and my gym I’d go to most afternoons. I loved shopping for groceries at M+S just around the corner from our flat. I loved strolling through Covent Garden and Carnaby and along the Thames. I loved every last little molecule about the entire city. 

Photo by Joel Smedley

Photo by Joel Smedley

Photo by Joel Smedley

It was the first time in my life that I’ve felt such intense passion about someplace like that. Everything seemed to click right into place and I felt more content than I ever had before. Within a few short weeks I was already scheming ways that I could navigate the confusion of international relocation, because I didn’t want London to be another destination- I wanted it to be home.

For the short term, my immediate solution was to extend my trip a bit longer. As you may already know, instead of flying back to the states at the end of October like I had originally planned, I bailed on spending Thanksgiving at home so that I could stay in Europe for 6 more weeks. What I didn’t advertise, was that I would be staying in my favorite city just about the entire time so that I could start making moves to (hopefully) stay for good. 

Those six weeks were filled with various sorts of investigations. I spent afternoons in line at the U.S. Embassy (which, to save you some time if you’re also interested in relocation, is not where you go for that). I researched visas for entrepreneurs that came with crazy requirements like £2,000,000 of investment funds. 

I looked into going back to a full-time roll in the social media realm (which is what I did prior to blogging) in hopes that a company would sponsor me so I could get a visa that way. While I knew it would take a lot of work to juggle a career and keep my blog running full speed ahead, I was absolutely willing to do it if it meant I got to do life in my favorite city. What I didn’t fully realize was the impact Brexit was already having on expats, even though it's just beginning to be negotiated. After many meetings, applications, research and effort,  everyone I've talked to (while all of them so kind + genuinely helpful) expressed it’s simply too much of a risk right now to onboard someone who isn’t a UK citizen or already an employee within the company- because they just don't know what the future holds for non-citizens. 

Even upon returning to the states after my 6 weeks ran out, I continued to check the UK visa site practically every day, desperately searching for a loophole I must have missed.  Meanwhile, I planned a return trip for the spring, which I hoped would allow some time for the dust to settle and progress to be made (hence why I just made my recent two-month stint in Europe where I made a few stops back to London). Unfortunately, I found the dust hasn’t settled and I found all the same answers I did on my last trip. Basically, no matter what visa option I've looked into, I don't have enough sorted to qualify just yet.

My point of this long, drawn out story isn’t to throw a pity party or wallow because my plans haven’t worked out the way I’d hoped. On the contrary, it’s made me realize how lucky I am to already be a citizen of an amazing country. In the midst of the refugee crisis I’ve witnessed first-hand while traveling through Europe, I don’t take for granted in the slightest that I’m not in peril danger or being forced out of my home with nowhere else to go. I’m simply a privileged American who wants to move from one first-world country to another— purely for my enjoyment. 

While I’ve certainly gained some perspective throughout the process, that doesn’t mean it’s not disappointing to be kept from living where you want to live. So while I'm not giving up on London forever, I also realize that it could potentially be years before the right opportunity for me to get there becomes available. 

So what do I do in the meantime? I've spent a lot of time asking myself that over the past few months. I travel a ton anyway so the easy answer seemed to be to wait it out in Nashville doing what I've been doing.

But awhile ago I read something that said: “Within us are two forces: a pull toward security — preservation of ourselves as we are— and a pull toward growth. Whichever we hold as more precious, we cultivate.”

At the risk of sounding cheesy, travel really does change you, and it certainly has changed me over the years. It's allowed me to see the world through a global lens beyond my everyday bubble. It's introduced me to so many different ways one can choose to live their life. It's provided me with possibility and perspective about things I never noticed before. In short, it's changed my driving desire from security to growth. So while I will always love Nashville, it no longer feels like a place that is bringing this new side of me to life, challenging me or inspiring me the way I'm looking for right now-- simply because it's too comfortable for me. And I don't want my life to be something that tempts me to drop into cruise control or coast. I want a life that's alive, vibrant, full of discovery and makes me happy to be where I am. 

So I’ve decided it’s time to try on life in another one of my favorite cities- one where I don’t need a visa. 

I packed up my car last week and headed to Chicago! This place has always been one of my favorite cities in the world and I'm so excited to finally be here (I've spent the past week settling in, which is why I've been a bit MIA). Not only is the weather gorgeous this time of year but Chicago offers so many of the qualities that I fell in love with about London (things I think I'll want from any place I decide to call home moving forward): big-city-energy, tons of parks, endless things to do, diverse cultures from all around the world, amazing restaurants and, of course, a major airport serving countless destinations all around the globe. I'm so excited to dive right into all these things, to meet new people, discover new favorite places and let myself fall in love with life in a new city just like I did last September. 

While I’m genuinely thrilled about all of this, let me be very clear: this doesn’t mean I have my life perfectly figured out right now. Relocation is messy- especially when you’ve been mentally and emotionally juggling three cities (London, Chicago and Nashville) like I have been lately. At the moment, I'm physically in Chicago with a bunch of my belongings + staying with family (who is abundantly generous to host me for a bit). A lot of my other things are still back at my place in Nashville (which I still have for now). And all the while, pieces of my heart are scattered in both places, along with the massive chunk of it that’s still in London. So what do you do with all of that?

I debated not publicly announcing anything, or only showing some of my cards: ("I'm moving to Chicago!" -- omitting the fact that getting to London has been a giant fail.) The main reason for considering those options is because I know from a life of non-stop travel that complicated life decisions yield loads of questions, confused faces and exhausting conversations. I find that people tend to prefer talking about things are definite and easy to understand. Black or white. Yes or no. In or out.  I'll also admit that in addition to feeling like people want to hear simple answers, I equally am guilty of wanting to be able to give simple answers. Sometimes it's tempting to just pretend like I have more figured out than I do.

But I believe that honesty and vulnerability are vital to a good story. So watering down the truth about what's going on in my life not only adds to the societal myths and pressures that you have to "have it all figured out" or "everyone else's lives work out perfectly", it also kills the storyline, mystery + excitement of the process. So basically, all of this rambling is just an honest, long-winded way of saying: 

I'm ready for a new challenge that's not Nashville. 

I still hope to move to London someday, but visas make that timeline unknown. 

Until then, I'm excited for my adventure in Chicago + am trusting I'm right where I'm supposed to be.

I may fall even more in love with Chicago than I did with London and decide to stay forever. I may find this is only a season and be right back at the drawing board. I honestly have no clue what to expect as my life unfolds here- but I do know that I don't want to let the fear of a complicated season paralyze me or keep me in a place that I've outgrown.

Unless you're someone who knows me personally, this really won't even impact you at all (except for seeing the Chicago skyline a bit more around these parts!) My blog will continue to operate the same way it always has. I'm still going to be traveling and creating resources to help you do the same (I have some really exciting trips coming up that I can't wait to announce!) But the reason I felt compelled to share the intricate details of this story and side of my life with everyone goes back to the heartbeat of why I started Blonde Atlas in the first place: to inspire you to live your best life. And in order to do that, I believe it's important to be honest about everything that comes with that. 

Chasing after the life you want is guaranteed to involve risk, roadblocks, uncertainty and figuring some things out as you go. There will be voices that tell you "It's all too much work" or "It just doesn't make sense."  In fact, our brains are scientifically wired to stop us from doing things that are uncomfortable, uncertain or scary in order to protect us and survive. But at the risk of sounding dramatic or cliché, I believe sacrificing a life inside a comfort zone for the sake of living a better, richer + fuller story is the only kind of life worth living.

So here's to not having everything figured out just yet. If you're feeling stuck and don't know what your next move is: stay curious and open-minded. If you're already knee deep in the mess of your own journey: take heart + keep putting one foot in front of the other. But no matter where you are, keep kicking fear in the face, because there's a lot of goodness in store on the other side of it. 

I hope you got something out of this no matter what season you find yourself in. I know I've mainly been writing travel recommendations on here, but it's my goal to start going deeper than just that in the near future. Stay tuned next week-- I'll be announcing something I've been working on that I'm excited to share!

Thanks so much for stopping by and being willing to follow along on my crazy adventures- wherever they may take me!

xx

Whitney